Humans have built many magnificent structures. Pyramids, temples, castles, skyscrapers, we love to build. Though we may not all be architects, engineers or construction workers, we all seem to be very good at building walls. I, myself, have built the sturdiest of walls. I know this because I’ve been working on tearing down these walls. It hasn’t been easy.
If these walls could talk, I’m sure they would probably be laughing at how foolish I am. How much time and effort I put into building such grand walls, only to spend ever more time and effort trying to destroy them. But why?
We begin to build these walls without even realizing it. They are our protection, our weapon. They will keep us from getting hurt. Keep out the pain. Keep us from being vulnerable. Keep out the judgement or even worse, the rejection we might experience if we were to expose our true selves. Or so we think. Brene Brown in her 2010 TED talk speaks to how we can’t segment emotions. If we keep the bad stuff out, we also keep out the good. Wait a minute, so if we can’t experience the good, what is the point? What is our reward for these splendid structures we have built? What is it that we end up feeling? Nothing. In an effort to protect ourselves, we end up building our own personal Alcatraz.
I personally prefer freedom. Throughout history, freedom has come with a cost. Blood, sweat, tears, struggle. The battle with ourselves is always the worst, until we realize we are the ones making it that way. Why are we so afraid of being vulnerable? Why are we so afraid of rejection? Are these not experiences we all go through in life at some time or another? Are they not what makes us human? Why not learn to embrace them? Without sorrow, how can we know joy? Without rejection, how can we know acceptance? Without a full range of experience, how can we fully live?
If these walls could talk…well I won’t worry about that. There are not many of them left and I don’t plan on building any more.